Thursday, June 20, 2013

What Not To Worry About In Terms of Tarot

It's good to be back! I have to admit to being in a little bit of a creative slump over the past few months, and wondering if in fact the blog had reached the end of its useful existence; nothing left to add. Like it says in the Bible, nothing new under the sun. That may be the case, but can I really say I've plumbed the depths of experience and understanding?
So I decided to put my own spin on a common theme among Tarot readers- the timeless FAQ section (that's frequently asked questions, by the way.) I've heard a lot of people express the same concerns or thoughts, and figured I'd do my own part to address them here.
1. I don't believe in that stuff/You need to convince me you're genuine.
While this second part actually is fair enough, if you don't believe in the Tarot, why are you coming to me for a reading? While I'm of a somewhat empirical frame of mind, either a thing is or it is not, I also know that having a confrontational or negative outlook and approach to the reading will make it a lot harder than it needs to be. If you have an open mind, and are willing to listen and share your own thoughts, the reading will be much more successful, and you'll gain much more from it.
The second part of this is somewhat subjective. If you're absolutely convinced that I'm a con artist, I doubt there's anything I can do to convince you otherwise; everything will usually have an explanation, be it coincidence, trickery or the like. Let me emphasize at this point that yes, I am aware of the tricks that con artists of this stripe use. And the reason I'm aware of them is that I make it a point to avoid them like the plague. I don't do these things, and it's my firm belief that neither does any other reputable Tarot reader. But again, if you have an open mind, and are willing to see things objectively, I trust in my own abilities and talents to convince you.
2. I'm afraid of finding out bad news/trouble/death if I get a reading.
If you're that afraid of trouble, ask yourself, why do you feel that way? What makes you think trouble is just around the bend for you? If it's something you're doing, or not doing, remember that it's never too late to change the path you're on. There are consequences, sure, but it's always what you do in the present that determines what's to come.
If you are worried about trouble, well, yes, once in a while life deals us a crappy hand. But the Tarot is not about doom and gloom- when we see trouble, us readers will then examine what can be done about that. Tarot is not about the problem, it's about developing a solution, and uncovering solutions and resources you may not have known were there.
3. Asking the same question over and over until you get the answer you want
Putting it bluntly, this won't work. The cards don't tell you what you want to hear, they tell you what's going on. Believe me, I'd be much happier if I had every reading I do for myself or someone else come up roses. But the thing is, when the cards show trouble, there's usually a reason for it, and usually a way through. This world is not meant to make us fail, but rather to reveal in many cases a higher purpose and direction.
4. I'm afraid to ask questions that may seem stupid or make me seem like I don't understand.
Never, ever be afraid to ask a question. Part of our jobs as Tarot readers is to make sure you understand and are able to take away something from the reading. A good reader (and, I might add, an effective reader) will not belittle clients or discourage dialogue. Believe it or not, we can't read your minds. Well, maybe some people can, but I'm not one of them. And that's probably a good thing! The point is, a reading is all about you. Ask questions, give your impressions of an image or card (this has on occasion opened up some great dialogue about the reading, and brought new aspects of the reading to the forefront, which proved very useful). Tarot readers are not like the Oracle of Delphi- you shouldn't need to puzzle out our mysterious utterances.
5. What if I get bad news?
Again, it's your decision to have a reading done, and as a client, you get to stop it at any point if you're feeling uncomfortable, or there's something you don't want to know, or are not ready to face. That's fine, and it's not my place or my concern to judge you. No one is perfect, and us readers are just as human as you. But again, remember that with bad news, there's not a message of "you're screwed", but rather "Here's what you can do in this situation." A Tarot reading should encourage positive action, not reaction, and especially not buckling down and expecting the worst. Storms come in this life, but they also pass. Trouble comes, but often we can learn from it.

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